Being a dad means making a lot of sacrifices. This is the reason why a lot of guys chicken out when they find out that they’re going to be a dad. Unfortunately, a lot of guys nowadays don’t have what it takes to be a dad so they sometimes take the easy way out. They’re afraid of the thought of being a dad. But they sure didn’t think about these sacrifices beforehand. This is why if you’re not ready to make sacrifices, don’t do it.
On the other hand, there are the dads that are more than willing to take on the challenge. They know that there will be sacrifices. What they don’t know are the specific sacrifices. As a soon-to-be dad, I believe in the importance of knowing these sacrifices. This way, I can get ready. I can make the necessary adjustments so that the world will not come crushing down on me in the form of pressures and sacrifices.
If you’re a first time dad or a soon-to-be dad, here are the sacrifices that you can expect:
Say goodbye to your toys.
As adult men, we do have our toys. We have cars, gadgets, appliances and the likes. It’s easy to drop five figures on a PS3 if you’re single. It’s easy to blow your 13th month pay on souping up your car. I have to admit that I did the same when I was single. Fortunately, my wife and I saved up and paid for our wedding. So I learned how to save for something more important.
But realization kicked in when I was about to buy a PS3 game worth a little over Php 2,000. I immediately made a mental calculation of how many diapers Php 2,000 can buy. It’s all about setting priorities and since my wife is pregnant, she and my baby are my priorities.
Oh, and this also means that you have to work harder than ever so you can buy the things that matter to your baby.
Babies have weird sleeping habits. Unfortunately, you can’t tell them to go to sleep at 8 PM. That will come later on during toddlerhood. While she’s still a baby, she controls your sleeping pattern. She’ll sleep when she needs to and she’ll wake up just for the heck of it. Just kidding. She’ll wake up when she’s hungry or when she needs to be changed. This means having an alarm clock that will go off without any warning. My wife and I made a commitment that we’ll take turns waking up when needed. There’ll be times when we’ll take up together. It’s a good thing that we work at home so we’ll just get some work done when Reese wakes us up.
No thank you, Piso Fares.
It’s really hard to take a vacation if you have a baby. This means that you have to say goodbye to taking advantage of cheap flights because you’re not going anywhere anytime soon. Personally, I don’t think it’s in the baby’s best interest to go on a flight. I also won’t forgive myself if I go on a vacation and leave our baby with my parents. We’ll just have to wait until she’s old enough to travel before we fly somewhere.
No more “me times”.
Personally, I want to watch my baby grow and I don’t want to miss even a day. This means that instead of spending some “me time”, it’ll just have to be dad-daughter quality time.
If you’re not yet a dad or a soon-to-be dad, it’s easy to see these things as sacrifices. But once you’re ready and you have a baby on the way, these sacrifices of a dad will really feel like privileges. I don’t really care if I grow eyebags shaped like Texas. I don’t give a damn if the only vacation that I get is while sitting on the toilet. I’m having a daughter. That’s something that I’d trade everything for.
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